29 8 / 2014

depressioncomix:

depressioncomix:

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Commentary. A long time ago I posted a link here about the difficulty black men have with depression, suicide, and receiving treatment and I always wanted to do a strip about it. Recent events motivated me to find a way. Before drawing, I did research this topic and yes, black sufferers of depression have had this reaction from therapists. The third leading cause of death of young black men is suicide, the first is homicide (again, think recent events). The lives of young POC are grim and it’s very VERY important that we recognize this so that something can be done.
On the regretful front, I had a chance to do a more interesting character design for this character and I didn’t and he looks more like depressed character #3’s husband, I may have to redraw this strip because not drawing more diverse is not a cool thing to do by any means.

depressioncomix:

depressioncomix:

199

Commentary. A long time ago I posted a link here about the difficulty black men have with depression, suicide, and receiving treatment and I always wanted to do a strip about it. Recent events motivated me to find a way. Before drawing, I did research this topic and yes, black sufferers of depression have had this reaction from therapists. The third leading cause of death of young black men is suicide, the first is homicide (again, think recent events). The lives of young POC are grim and it’s very VERY important that we recognize this so that something can be done.

On the regretful front, I had a chance to do a more interesting character design for this character and I didn’t and he looks more like depressed character #3’s husband, I may have to redraw this strip because not drawing more diverse is not a cool thing to do by any means.

28 8 / 2014

"These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize."

28 8 / 2014

"Controllers, abusers and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the question is them. They always say the problem is someone else."

28 8 / 2014

quitpretendingyourenormal:

Fed up of hearing
“Everyone else has bad days too”
Yeah I fucking know that! I’m not acting like I’m the only one on the world!
And tbh hearing about everyone’s ‘bad days’ is one of the things that drove me to this illness you prick!

"Everyone else has bad…

28 8 / 2014

calidisposition:

If anyone else would like to read or speak with someone about the struggles of starting the school year with a mental illness, I have a really good friend who is a writer, and he’s just started a WordPress blog. His name is Jordan, and he is one of the most talented and best human beings I’ve ever met. Please, if you or someone you know is going through similar issues, send them his way.

(via clinicallydepressedpug)

27 8 / 2014

Anonymous said: do you guys know of any other blogs like this one, but that focus more on psychosis, paranoia, and derealization rather than mostly depression/anxiety?

mentalillnessmouse:

Hi Anon,

Check out these links from our Helpful Resources page!

Like the posts here on mentalillnessmouse, posts on these other tumblrs may be triggering, so peruse and enjoy at your own risk. 

ADHD Aardvark

Anxiety Cat

Aspie Fawn

Autistic Axolotl

Autistic Eagle 

Autistic Hedgehog

Autistic Kitten

avoidantpdcoyote 

Bipolar Owl

Bipolar Owl [new]

Body Dysmorphic Disorder Lion

Borderline Scorpion

Chronic Anxiety Cat

Chronic Illness Cat

Clinically Depressed Koala

Clinically Depressed Pug

Derealization Dalmation

Derma Dragonfly

Diabetic Cat

Dissociative Degu

Dyscalculic Dolphin

Dyslexic Duckling

Dyspraxic Panda

Eating Disorder Elephant

Eating Disorder Owl

Eating Disorder Recovery Starfish

Emotionally Volatile Bear

Executive Dysfunction Goat

Hypochondria Hippo

Intrusive Thought Indri

Judgmental-elephant 

Male ED magpie 

Mental Illness Armadillo

Migraine Margay

Misophonia Meerkat 

OCD Otter

OCD Otter [new]

Perfectionist Polar Bear

PPD Porcupine

Psychology Student Platypus

Psychology Major Rat 

Psychosis Salamander

Psychotic Depression Border Collie

PTSD Elephant

PTSD Puma

Seizure Beaver

Self-injury shark

Sensory Sea Turtle

Sleep Disorder Grizzly

Social Anxiety Mouse

Survivor Rat

Synesthete Snail

Tourette’s Toucan 

Trich Tortoise

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Advice Animals

Boggle Loves You

Calming Manatee

Inspirational Bats

27 8 / 2014

(Source: anxietycat)

27 8 / 2014

frankenfine:

Having anxiety is frustrating, not just because of the actual symptoms, but it feels like NOBODY UNDERSTANDS. When you try to explain to someone how nervous or scared you are, they always seem to brush you off and tell you you’re being silly. Words cannot DESCRIBE the utter…

27 8 / 2014

Anonymous said: I could use a second opinion. My dad is emotionally/verbally abusive, and a friend seems kind of. skeptical and defensive of him. Like she explains away behavior when I tell her in a this-really-upset-me way, and when I told her he gaslights me a lot she asked me to provide an example of him doing that. Is it just me, or is she pulling something similar? I definitely don't feel any better when I talk to her about it or anything else, and I don't really feel like she's on my side at all.

mentalillnessmouse:

TW: Abuse

Hi Anon,

She sounds like she’s either a very toxic friend or as if she herself was going through something similar at home. It could be that the things you say your father does is abusive are happening to her, and she doesn’t see her own parent as being abusive, so she feels the need to defend such behavior. On the other hand, she might just be a rude person who isn’t taking your feelings and concerns into consideration. Either way, it’s not a great spot to be in, and I can see why this is upsetting to you.

You’ve got some options to work with though:

  1. Tell her how you feel. Tell her that her unsupportive behavior is distressing and uncalled for. You don’t need to “prove” your abuse to anyone, let alone someone who is supposed to be your friend.
  2. Stop bringing up dad stuff around her. If she’s not going to be supportive, there’s no use in continuing to bring it up around her.
  3. Ask your friend why she thinks this behavior is okay. Depending on how close you two are or were, you might be able to ask her if she’s going through similar struggles. In which case, you guys can support each other.
  4. Stop hanging out with her altogether. Eventually people who are unsympathetic and reinforce negativity take its toll on us. You’re going through enough as it is, and you don’t need your friend rooting for your dad right now.

In the meantime, here are some tips from our Helpful Resources page for dealing with abuse:

Abuse

Best,

Lena

26 8 / 2014

mandytheprotector:

ISFJ’s can be pretty susceptible to psychological disorders and addictions; my mother told me the same thing about our family history!

I’m pretty sure I may have something called Avoidant personality disorder:

A person with avoidant personality disorder may:

  • Be easily hurt when people…

26 8 / 2014

beahbeah:

this website SAVED MY BRAIN when i was a stressed out college student who couldn’t stop flipping out long enough to prioritize. quite a few of you are still suffering through college so i hope this helps you too!! c:

(via mentalillnessmouse)

25 8 / 2014

howtogrowthefuckup:

SO HELP ME GOD YOU LITTLE SHITS BETTER USE FAFSA.GOV TO FILL OUT YOUR FUCKING FAFSA.

IF YOU PAY $88 TO FILE YOUR FAFSA AT FAFSA.COM, I WILL SMACK THE DUMB LOOK RIGHT OFF YOUR DAMN FACES. FAFSA.COM IS NOT AFFILIATED WITH THE US DEPARTMENT OF ED. THEY ARE BAD PEOPLE WHO WILL TAKE YOUR MONEY AND CHARGE YOU TO FILL OUT A FREE FORM.  A FREE FUCKING FORM. FREE IS THE FIRST WORD IN THE ACRONYM!

.GOV IS LOVE. .COM IS A PUTRID POOL OF FUCKERY.

-THE VERY ANGRY SUDDEN ADULT

(via thranduilfics)

25 8 / 2014

nicocoer:

madeofpatterns:

into-the-weeds:

Independence is precious

This is a VERY INTENSE 1-minute video, and it needs a domestic violence tw. If you do watch it, it’s a powerful ode to independence, dignity of risk, and the fact that the lives of women with intellectual and developmental disabilities should reside at the heart of feminism. Self determination, autonomy, bodily sovereignty. These things matter for everyone.

(I want to add a caveat about even very direct support being possible to give and receive in a respectful, self-directed way, and that independence includes directing your supports, but I don’t think the movie argues against that at all, it’s just a misconception I could see forming.)

I don’t understand what happens in this video. Can someone explain it to me?

The first part is (presumably) a woman without a disability, who looks to be about 30, who is manually helped with every task in her life. She is not allowed to independently talk on the phone to the office (Bureau, could be interpreted as her workplace or as a social services office), to prepare her own food, fill out her forms how she would like, drink coffee without help, or even brush her teeth. This is shown by a masculine hand doing each of these tasks “for” her in a physically invasive manner. Her affect grows frustrated and sad (I think?) by the end of the video. During the paperwork scene you could interpret her as bored.

There are a lot of cultural codings in this.

This for many people replicates the feeling of an abusive relationship where the abuser controls every aspect of the person they are abusing’s life. This technique is one used in order to isolate and induce feelings of worthlessness and neediness in the person who is target of the abuse, so that they will not report or leave the abuser.

The being overly helpful part in particular makes the person feel as though if they were to tell anyone how it makes them feel, that it might be brushed aside. In fact, complaining about someone helping you in an MH treatment setting can get you a Borderline Personality Disorder DX, especially if you have other behaviors- sadly, many of those other behaviors are ones that are ALSO common in people living in abusive situations long term. 

Because of the level of “helpfulness” involved, it can also make articulating the potentially abusive nature of the abuser’s activities hard. Sometimes it can be hard to explain how someone “helping” you in the kitchen is bad or harmful, or how someone “helping” you with papers is harmful. It can be difficult to have the wherewithal and language to describe, in detail, exactly how much this is done and how it is used to disempower you. (I was abused in a way that was much more explicit than this, but it took me a decade to be able to articulate why it was abusive; this kind of abuse would be even harder to talk about why it is abuse.) 

The second part of the video shows a young woman with down syndrome. It is on the same kitchen set as the above scenario, but she is alone filling out a worksheet. It gives her name and an age of 30. Additionally she has similar coloring to the woman in the initial scenario. In this case, though, the masculine “help” is not present, and it tells us that she is successfully living independently in her community. 

Here it makes a connection between how the viewer presumably felt negative about the level of unneeded support the non-disabled actress had, and the way that many people act when supporting people with intellectual disabilities.

It implies that often people over estimates the level of assistance a person needs, or acts in an overly protective manner when adulthood activities (preparing food, taking responsibility of personal hygiene, dealing with office calls, etc) come up. This can feel uncomfortable, invasive, and so on when there aren’t opportunities to safely self direct or to take responsibility at the level that the individual decides.  Many people don’t make this connection if shown a person with disabilities receiving “help,” instead assuming that if the person is being given that level of “help” that they must need it.

The goal is to promote the possibility of independent living for people with intellectual disabilities. This would be rather than insisting someone has to choose between living with their parents or a group home, or even just round the clock care if they don’t need that level of support.

It also allows people the option of considering how they view people with ID- it makes them able to think about how they react when they see someone upset about the help they get. Sometimes people assume the upset that is actually about a lack of control in a person’s life is actually just another part of their disability.

But this shows them someone without a disability having those same exact responses they might have seen from someone. Because it waits until the viewer would be uncomfortable with the actress being treated that way gets them emotionally invested before the subject of disabilitity is broached, it can be an “oh” moment. They haven’t been allowed to brush it off by contextualizing it as “they are disabled, that must be the problem.” 

So it really is doing a lot of things in a non-explicit fashion. It is using a lot of knowledge we have about how people think that is used in marketing.

Weed’s comment about someone trying to dismiss/misunderstand it as being against personal care when it isn’t is very important in light of all it is doing. After you (not you as in you, patterns, but you as in whoever is reading this) read my blurb here, I suggest scrolling back up to reread weed’s comments. 

25 8 / 2014

masked-perfection:

If you go 1 hour without self harm, I’m proud of you.
If you go 1 day without self harm, I’m proud of you.
If you go 1 week without self harm, I’m proud of you.
If you go 1 month without self harm, I’m proud of you.
If you go 1 year without self harm, I’m proud of you.
No matter how far you are, or how far you made it. I’m proud of you, you know why? Because you’re strong, and I know you can get through this.

(via mentalillnessmouse)

23 8 / 2014